Angela Jia Kim

Savor Beauty + Spa / Savor the Success - CEO + Founder
New York, NY

    5 ways you may be sabotaging your own success

    April 19, 2012

    Do you self sabotage? 

    We all do, but the more you are aware of your tendencies, the more you can move through them.

    Through helping thousands of women entrepreneurs launch and sustain their businesses and also working very intimately with a handful of women in my clubs, I am seeing a pattern emerge that I am sharing with you: 

    Dream... roll up sleeves and get to work... fun... loving the progress...

    almost reaching goal... SABOTAGE... stop.


    I'm not going to get into the psychology of why we self sabotage because I'm not a psychologist. What I do want to share is the top five sabotage that I've seen and what you can do about it. 

    1. Distraction: Do you have your eye on the ball or do you pick up a new shiny object when things get rolling?

    If you are doing this to yourself, here are some things you can do: 

    • Get plugged into your passion. You may not be loving your path and therefore you want to find something else to do. 
    • If you have to get something done, turn off your phone and only check emails two times a day. 
    • Find a collaboration partner. I love this one! Call a friend and say, "Hey, want to play a fun game with me? Let's tell each other what we will accomplish in the next hour and then check in and see if we got it done. Ready? Go!" This will get you on the ball and you will love your forward movement. 

    2. Personal issues: Do you find yourself depleted during work hours because of personal problems? 

    Hey, we are human and as creative people, our personal and work lives intermingle. But do you find that you are allowing your personal life to block you from working? If you don't achieve your goals or you have to cancel work-related meetings because of personal blockages, it's time to create personal boundaries! 

    • Compartmentalize a la Bill Clinton. One of his greatest talents is his ability to laser focus on what he's doing. Imagine putting your challenges into drawers. If you are in work mode, don't indulge in personal issues. If you are in personal time, don't work. 
    • Allow yourself the space and time to deal with the personal problems. Do you need to speak with a therapist? Have you taken the weekends to fully refuel? 

    3. Boundaries: Do you let other people's drama enter into your sphere? Are you saying "yes" to everything? 

    As women, it's easy to want to be there for your friends. And we should be because that's what friends are for. But there's a time and place for most things, and we need to begin creating strong boundaries to protect our time. 

    • If you say "yes" to everything, I want you to clarify what your goals are. Write them down and tape them onto your wall. If something does not feed into those goals, the answer is "NO"! 
    • If you are allowing people's drama to seep into your life, it's time to turn off your phone during work hours. Unless it's an emergency, it can wait. 

    4. Disorganization: Are you in a constant state of chaos both in your head and in your surroundings? 

    I'm a big believer in your physical surroundings reflecting your inner state. Being perpetually disorganized a popular self-sabotage because it involves not taking good care of yourself. 

    • If your place is a mess, take a 5-minute timer and time yourself to clean up. If your physical surroundings are a mess, it's likely that your brain is, too. The movement will energize you, and you will be amazed how much calmer you are to achieve your goals. 
    • If your life is in a constant state of chaos, you need to take Sunday or every evening to organize your schedule and write things down. If you need help with organizing, please hire a professional. 

    5. Eyes Too Big for Tummy: Are you accepting too much business and not ready for it? 

    I love seeing women entrepreneurs' businesses grow, but what inevitably happens to many people is that they start to accept a lot of clients (or orders) and then cannot deliver. They can't deliver their best and then customers begin to grumble and become unhappy. 

    I cannot tell you how many times I have seen talented entrepreneurs get stuck here. You've worked hard to get your clients so make sure that you don't sabotage your reputation by being ready for the fantastic flow of business coming your way!

    • Have hired help with specific systems in place before accepting a lot of orders or clients. 
    • If you have a huge influx of business, set expectations right away in order to not disappoint your clients. 
    • Grow organically. Sure, the dollar signs are attractive, but at what cost will you build your business? 

    So, what self sabotage do you do to yourself? I personally have done all five but am currently working on #1. :) Comment below and state what you will do to keep yourself moving forward! 

    Angela Jia Kim is a woman entrepreneur advocate, organic lifestyle guru, doting mom, New York City (not house)wife, and author-in-the-making.

    She uses her organic skincare business, Om Aroma, to empower and inspire other business owners by openly sharing mistakes (the kind most sweep under the rug) and lessons learned (the kind most keep as secrets to get ahead).

    She believes that building business is directly tied to self growth, that it takes a village to raise a business, and that your business is meant to serve the life you want to live. 

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