Angela Jia Kim

Savor Beauty + Spa / Savor the Success - CEO + Founder
New York, NY

    Your excuse is invalid

    October 11, 2012

    "There are two kinds of people in the world: those who make excuses and those who get results. An excuse person will find any excuse for why a job was not done, and a results person will find any reason why it can be done. Be a creator, not a reactor."

    - Alan Cohen

    (Special thanks to Payson Cooper for sharing this photo with me.)

    I was reading Caroline Ceniza-Levine's blog the other day, and this quote from Barbara Corcoran about complainers struck me: "They are thieves of emotional energy."

    Complaining is just an excuse to not get things done. If you spend enough time complaining about your health, your circumstances, or anything else that is not right in your life, then you run out of time - and energy - to make the magic happen. 

    The other day, I was on the phone with a fellow 7 Figure Club member, and she asked how I was doing. I started into a rant session about the plumber who couldn't finish his job, how this entire renovation was starting to eat at my nerves, and so on. I used my complaints as an excuse as to why I was unable to finish my book. 

    I stopped myself short. 

    "Nika, am I a complainer?"

    "I don't see that in you at all. You were just letting out your stress. That's important..."

    "Okay, well, if you ever catch me complaining, PLEASE call me out. Will you do that for me? I'm okay with blowing steam once in a while, but if it crosses the line into complaining and making excuses, please call me on the carpet." 

    Note: I'm not saying that you shouldn't get your feelings out and discuss them with the appropriate people in your life. But I am saying that at some point, if you keep talking about it, you electrify and amplify that portion of your life. You excuse yourself from stepping into your greatness.

    I say... if you talk for ten minutes about the bad in your life, counterbalance by talking 20 minutes about the good things. Or better yet, as I've told myself, simply stop talking. :)

    In Savor's Breakthrough, 6 and 7 Figure Clubs, we ask everyone to choose one massive goal that they want to accomplish within one year. Then the women roll up their sleeves and start manifesting. Of course, so many things get kicked up once we begin the hands-on-excuses-off journey. Guess what is the first blocker we have to work through? 

    Yep. Complaints and Excuses. 

    I've done it. You've done it. Let's just come clean and own it. It's the first thing that comes up before the big breakthrough. Complaints come in prepackaged little snippets like: 

    "I don't like the goal I chose anymore."

    "I have employees who don't listen to me." 

    "I have no support from my family."

    "I'm happy where I am even if I'm not drawing a salary yet."

    "I am sick again." 

    The list can go on and on. 

    How do you know if you are complaining? Simple. If you are talking about negative things in your life as if they have the power to block you. And the only way they can do that is if you keep empowering them!

    When you notice you are complaining, take a moment to realize that you are standing directly in your own way of getting what you want (the goal, the health, the support, etc.) When you get out of the way, you'll witness your own success; the silence of not-complaining is powerful. It gives you room to accomplish extraordinary things. 

    For example, Kat Gordon, founder of Maternal Instinct, decided her one goal for the year would be to put together an amazing 3% Conference, the first-ever event for female creative directors. At the beginning of year, during one of the mastermind calls, she expressed fear to move forward. The budget was becoming astronomical, and her palms were sweaty. Should she move forward? 

    She felt the resounding "yes" in her gut and from then on, I never once heard a complaint out of her. She showed up every Monday with her goal, and nearly every Friday, she met the goal. She took time off occassionally, but even while on vacation, she would post something about her progress. 

    Weekly baby steps eventually led to a hugely successful conference two weeks ago. And, on top of it, she received raves from major executives saying that it was the best conference they had attended.

    It's kinda black and white. Are you showing up with excuses or are you showing up with results?

    Let's decide today. Which person will you show up as? 

    Angela Jia Kim is a woman entrepreneur advocate, organic lifestyle guru, doting mom, New York City (not house)wife, and author-in-the-making.

    She uses her organic skincare business, Om Aroma, to empower and inspire other business owners by openly sharing mistakes (the kind most sweep under the rug) and lessons learned (the kind most keep as secrets to get ahead).

    She believes that building business is directly tied to self growth, that it takes a village to raise a business, and that your business is meant to serve the life you want to live. 

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