When Was the Last Time You Gave Someone a Compliment?

    May 10, 2009

    My husband and I were out to dinner a few weeks ago and we had an excellent experience. The food was amazing, the service impeccable and the ambiance delightful. As my husband handed our waitress his credit card he asked "May I see the manager?" The waitress looked at us in wide-eyed horror and said "was everything OK sir - were you unhappy with your food or service?"

    "No," my husband said. "People are always quick to share their complaints but rarely do they share their compliments. I want to speak to the manager to tell him you were the best server I've had in a long time and that our experience here was one we can't wait to have again."

    A few minutes later the manager came over with a baffled expression on his face. My husband sang the praises of our waitress and the restaurant and the manager responded "in the five years I've managed this place, not one person has ever called me over to give me a compliment."

    This situation got me thinking - how often do we go out of our way to compliment others? While we may share our great experiences with friends and family (which is also a great thing to do), we often forget to share those words with the very person that gave us that feeling.

    So in the spirit of adopting an attitude of gratitude, my goal is to give at least ONE sincere compliment per day to any of the following people:

    • My spouse and family (I tend to forget to praise the ones I am closest to!)
    • Service providers that give extraordinary service (hairdresser, dog groomer, plumber, etc)
    • The neighbor that always brings home baked goodies and helps in a bind
    • A business associate that I just had an amazing meeting/conversation with
    • A blogger or author that I follow
    • A business professional I highly respect
    • Someone reaching a milestone (running their first race, having a baby, getting married)
    • The clerk at the convenience store, postman or trash man - how often do I thank them for their service?

    Who can you compliment today?

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